Having the courage to update our mental model when the current one doesn’t serve us well.
Photo by Le Minh Phuong on Unsplash Let’s face it, we wouldn’t build a bridge using an engineering model which is proven to be faulty and which doesn’t work, because we know that it caused the collapse of a bridge before and so through experience we have tested it and know that we need to change our model.…
Stick your middle finger to your “self doubt”. Just do it. Take immediate action! And watch your pitiful “self doubt” evaporate.
Photo by Austin Neill on Unsplash Self doubt is a habit. We are good at self doubt because we have been practicing self doubt in the past. What we practice a lot of we become good at. It feels intellectually and emotionally easier to simply think the same thoughts and do the same things. When we keep…
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. At anytime, in anywhere, don’t blink!
Photo by Jose Aragones on Unsplash Suppose we get to sit at the same table with Nelson Mandela or the Dalai Lama, wow that’s as big a selfie or photo opportunity as it can get. It will guarantee to attract maximum Facebook “likes”. But then what? The real question is: are we sitting there mentally? Are…
Every time we offload the responsibility of unsatisfactory result to the outside world, we are giving up the chance to develop our thought models to improve the odds for the next time
Photo by Lesly Juarez on Unsplash When something has not worked out, or when we lose a “competition”, or when an idea of ours is not accepted by the market or our audience, it’s feels good to blame “luck” or the economy or “other people”, the “world”………etc. It feels good to offload the responsibility to the outside…
Start with the thought of backing off from harming others. It will eventually benefit you first, then others and the planet.
Photo by Deryn Macey on Unsplash Over ten years ago when I went to some parts of Europe, when I was taken to lunch in restaurants outside the big cities, I usually either had an empty plate or had to explain to the chef exactly what to do. It took a bit more effort than nowadays. In those…
“To be kind or to be right” , always choose to be kind.
Photo by Robert Baker on Unsplash Hey folks, I have some “facts” for you. Sorry, some opinions or viewpoints, not “facts”. What you argue about, and do your best about to convince others that you are 100% “right” about something, about whatever it is. I am sorry to point out. All that stuff you are defending.…
Switch from: “what can I get?” or “what’s in it for me?”, to : “how may I give?”, “how may I serve?” and watch your level of happiness rise. And experience success you never imagined possible!
Photo by Morvanic Lee on Unsplash Zig Ziglar said: “You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”. What do we want in life? That’s a very important question. But whatever it is that we want, I am curious whether many people agree that it’s happiness that we…
I will see it when I believe it!
Photo by Daniil Kuželev on Unsplash When we say “seeing is believing”, we are saying to ourselves there is something out there that is so objective, real and unchanging that it is the reality that we process when we see it. I am curious, how many of us inverse it and think that what we “see” is…
Would our mind be in a more positive state if we decide to enjoy the flowers and just welcome the weeds but leave them alone for the moment?
Photo by corina ardeleanu on Unsplash When we go into our garden, we see what we choose to see. Some people see only flowers, not only flowers, but the most beautiful and colourful ones. Others see only the weeds and the broken and half dead flowers. What we pay attention to grows and gets amplified…
Hey, you don’t need to work on your reputation. You need to work on self acceptance. You have a beautiful inner job to do.
Photo by Robert Baker on Unsplash The attachment to reputation, otherwise known as “what others think of me”, is the worse attachment to have. It causes the most suffering. And one of the mindsets related to this is the “comparison of ourselves with others.” When we compare ourselves with others, we are wasting precious energy focussing on…