Thank you for visiting me “worry”! I promise not to fight you.
Photo by Surinder Singh Buttar on Unsplash When worry comes to visit, because most of us have the habit of attaching judgemental labels to ourselves and to our worry and anxiety, the worry itself quickly becomes something that defines us and makes us feel guilty about worrying as we tell ourselves that we “shouldn’t” worry and so…
There is a beautiful light at the end of the dark tunnel called “worrying”!
Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash It’s a dark tunnel. It can be long but we can certainly make it a shorter tunnel and even get out of it sooner. We can get out of it immediately, if we begin to understand the mechanics of “worry”. Just like the correct engineering mechanics of building a bridge, it works.…
To adopt the default mode or not, that is the transformation question!
Photo by Suzanne D. Williams on Unsplash Default modes are convenient. It’s by definition the mode we instinctively go to due to our habit energy which has put us onto autopilot mode and hence the default mode is what we are run on. It’s what we have been practicing all our lives and so it’s very…
We already have the good stuff. The inner work is to remove the pollutants
Photo by Xuan Nguyen on Unsplash A calm mind is a peaceful mind. This is the state of our mind when we are rid of all the neurosis. The big question is how to rid ourselves of the neurosis. Or to begin with, how to reduce it. One model is to look at a human…
The ones who get stuff done feel the same fear, anxiety, panic, self doubt like all of us, the difference is that they do it anyway
Photo by George Pagan III on Unsplash A calm mind is a peaceful mind. When we resist getting stuff done, we are basically taking some fear and exaggerate it until all we feel is fear, anxiety, panic and self doubt. We all know the feeling. When we resist getting something done, we struggle between…
Here’s to a limitless you!
Photo by Abhinav Srivastava on Unsplash Limit or no limit, that is the question! Limit or no limit, that is our choice. It turns out that we make choices every millisecond by creating thoughts which we then repackage as “solid”, “objective” and “permanent” reality. We then clothe ourselves in self limiting thoughts. These choices then inform…
Is empathy more likely when we can see, smell, taste and feel what someone else sees, smells, taste and feel?
Photo by Joey Yu on Unsplash When we say this shirt is beautiful, we actually believe without any doubt that this is a statement of the truth, the solid and undeniable truth. We think that we are seeing a beautiful shirt. The reality is that we are not seeing “a beautiful shirt”. We are seeing…
What if we set up a new autopilot system: “delight in our good points and beautiful qualities, and in others and everything…….at all times, starting with the next 24 hours”
Photo by Kenny Krosky on Unsplash Our default mode is to find faults because we want perfection. So we want to “make it right”. We do this with ourselves, and we do this with others. We do this with animate and inanimate things. When we do this to ourselves, we like to tell ourselves we are…
We all invest in our hard practical skills systematically. How many of us invest in our emotional and happiness “soft skills” systematically?
Photo by Quino Al on Unsplash It’s hardly rocket science that if we practice the piano we are going to get a better outcome in piano playing. It’s also not difficult to understand that if we are motivated to make better cakes, we have to do something about it: such as finding the recipes, may be…
When we ask “Does what I do or say, or think elevate your life?”, we are actually opening our own doors to our heart to allow deep transformation in ourselves.
Photo by Scott Szarapka on Unsplash When we ask ourselves “what is it for”? What is our work for? And why does it matter? It is not always immediately apparent why we do what we do? Some people say we help reduce labour ( ie reduce manual work…….or automation..), or we reduce costs, or we make a…