Don’t be a servant of your goals; YOU are the master, let your goals be the servant!
Photo by Manasvita S on Unsplash Whatever we keep practicing, we become good at that thing. When we see someone good at tennis, we know that he has been practicing a lot and failed a lot before he “got it”. But we also know that he probably had a good coach, or teacher or good models…
Quality of every experience we put out into the world matters!
Photo by Markus Spiske on Unsplash When we offer someone help, or when we offer a physical gift like a meal or a ride, or when we offer a piece of advice, we very often feel under appreciated or we don’t get the result/effect we intended and we are frustrated. In a world where we are bombarded…
Control the servants of the mind. Control body and speech.
Photo by davide ragusa on Unsplash If I stop typing now, and get up, walk to the door, we can all agree that this action started with a thought. The thought that “I will stop typing, stand up and walk out through the door.” The thought is clear that I will walk out through the door, and…
How a little quality control of our thoughts and intentions can bring about positive speech and actions, and happier consequences.
Photo by Thought Catalog on Unsplash When we have a bakery, we know that we need to do “Quality Control” of our products (cakes and bread) for the benefit of our customers before we ship out the goods. We do the same whether we have a bakery or a factory, or a shirt factory. Because at one…
Three questions that will change your life deeply forever!
Photo by Emily Morter on Unsplash When is the most important time? Who is the most important person? What is the most important thing to do? When I first heard about these three questions, which come from a short story by Leo Tolstoy, it shock me to my bones because it was the answers were simple but…
Shift from guilt to “what can I do about it”, and delight in your good qualities.
Photo by Michele Guan on Unsplash Hey, whatever speech, actions or thoughts we entertain, I always have a simple test. “Is it kind and generous to the recipient?” In the stories of guilt we tell ourselves, I would assert that it never passes this test: “Is it kind and generous to the recipient?”, and here we…
4 steps to freedom from attachment to a problem: (1) Face it, (2) accept it, (3) deal with it, (4)let it go.
Photo by Kristina V on Unsplash When we face a problem or a serious challenge or something we really wished wasn’t there, or wished hadn’t shown up, we go nuts because we can’t stand it and we either feel guilty (telling ourselves we have done something BAD), or we want to find out who is to blame…
Giving people back their control to develop their infinite potential!
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash Our default mode when we are in a position of power such as being someone’s “superior” in work (boss) or being a teacher, is to give advice. Or to teach. One thing I have learnt is that no one wants to be told what to do. No one wants to…
Pleasure is a mental choice!
Photo by Hello I’m Nik on Unsplash Pleasure is a choice. Some people drink beer for pleasure. Others think it tastes like cheap medicine. Some people run the marathon for pleasure. Other would rather die than doing it. So it appears that pleasure is not that thing. It is a choice we make. If…
You are a SUPERHERO! Whether you know it or not!
Photo by Joey Nicotra on Unsplash It turns out that most people do not delight in their own good qualities, their virtues and their own self worth enough. Words are powerful. Words are thoughts. If we want to change our world, we have to change our interpretation of ourselves first. We have to change our minds.…