What if we set up a new autopilot system: “delight in our good points and beautiful qualities, and in others and everything…….at all times, starting with the next 24 hours”

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Our default mode is to find faults because we want perfection.  So we want to “make it right”. We do this with ourselves, and we do this with others. We do this with animate and inanimate things.

 

When we do this to ourselves, we like to tell ourselves we are “perfectionist” instead of calling ourselves “fault finder”. Perfectionism is just a polite way of saying “finding fault”.  Like everything we keep practicing, we become experts in it. And so as we keep practicing “fault finding”, we become experts in fault finding and at any moment, we can find fault in anyone, in anything, anyplace and anytime, normally within less than a millisecond.

 

And over time, we train ourselves to become junkies of “only wanting the nice things and nice people”. “Nice things and nice people” as defined by our mind at the time. As soon as our mind detects there is something in something or someone which doesn’t please our attachment 100%, we create dissatisfaction. We wished it was something else.

 

No wonder why we are so exhausted.

 

Let’s face it. We all know from our direct experience that it feels much better to have something we appreciate and are satisfied with. And we all know the feeling of dissatisfaction when we tell ourselves someone or something isn’t what it “should” be.

 

From morning to night, if we have more dissatisfactions than satisfactions, we feel rotten at the end of the day. And if we more satisfactions than dissatisfactions, we feel great.

 

We all know the feelings.

 

So I am curious, would it not be more fun and joyful to start the day, with the intention to look for the satisfactory part of everyone and everything, including in ourselves and transform our day, 24 hours at a time?

 

What if our job in the next 24 hours is in delighting in our own good points and beautiful qualities, and once we are kind and generous to ourselves, we direct our delight to other people’s good point and qualities, and to everything else we encounter?

 

What if we renew this mindset every 24 hours until it becomes our new autopilot system?