100% Full acceptance of another person changes their lives, and ours.

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What is it that we can give to our loved ones, our friends and people we engage with, that is really valuable?   Our money? Our privileges? Our social connections?

 

I would argue that the most priceless gift we can give them is something that doesn’t make a dent in our bank balance, something that the more we give out the more we have in our “warehouse”, and it is something that most of us without realising it withhold it from the rightful recipients.

 

It is simple, but worth more than a South African diamond mine. It is the simple and 100% full acceptance of another person, without qualifications. It means opening the doors of our heart fully and always for our loved ones.

 

We don’t always realise it, but whenever we try to “improve” someone, we are not accepting them as they are. When we feel disappointed that someone has not measured up to the standards we have set, we are telling them that we don’t accept them as they are. This is rampant everywhere.

 

It is especially important if we are parents. Our children depend on us a lot for their wellbeing. They depend on our full acceptance.

 

It is not enough that we assume they know it. We have to through all our thoughts, our speech and our actions make it 110% clear to them explicitly that we accept them 100% however they turn out in life at any given moment.  

 

If we can’t accept that they don’t have a proper job. Or that they have broken the law and ended up in jail. Or they have done something totally “outrageously unacceptable”. Or they have “shamed us”……….if there is any “reason” to make us less than accepting,  sorry my friend, that means you are not fully accepting and your heart is still not fully open.

 

When we have full opened our heart to someone, we fully accept them. Period. No “if” or “but”.

 

I am curious, how many of us are ready to explicitly go up to the most important people in our lives and tell them that we fully accept them, no matter what and however they will turn out, and that the doors of our heart are always open?

 

We have the power to give this priceless gift, now.  We have the power to change our lives and theirs.